I’m joining my friend Emily today and talking about what I learned in September. It feels so right at this moment in time because I am currently doing better with looking back than I am looking ahead. That’s what happens when you have had either a baby or toddler in your house for 12 years, or have had your kids home all day because of homeschooling, but now instead you are staring at two dogs. So let’s do this.
1. I learned that dogs are the new kids. That’s who I now spend my days with. The first day all three of my kids went to school, I had an irrational urge to immediately adopt a baby, and I may or may not have spent the morning researching adoption agencies. But then I took a nap with Tiny Tim after lunch instead, and that was pretty awesome, so I quit researching. I’ll stick with the dogs for now.
2. I have learned that not having an “easily definable job” in modern America makes both myself and other people uncomfortable. I have been asked 63 times (and counting) this month, “So what do you do now with all your free time now that all your kids are in school?” Back to my views on small talk, it’s hard to answer this question with “small talk niceties”. I don’t think they want to hear that I’m questioning almost every decision I have ever made in life other than Jesus, my marriage, and having children, and everything I knew I was pretty good at doing like nursing babies and changing diapers is over (alright fine, that’s been over for awhile, but still), or that I’m kinda scared because I don’t know what’s next and that’s kinda a problem because I’m the girl who writes about purpose and trusting God for what’s next, or the truth that I really like painting but I throw away more than I keep and that’s sort of lame…..I don’t think they want to hear all that. So I smile and say, “Oh ya know, a little of everything.” Which is code for: a whole lot o’ crazy.
3. I learned that my husband looks like this guy from Fox News. His grandmother and I made him stand in front of the television so we could take his picture to prove it, and then we called in all her friends to come look and see our discovery. It was a good day. 4. I learned that Ella is her mother’s daughter, and when she reads scripture out loud she holds the bible in one hand, points her index finger on the other hand, and paces back and forth in the room with authority as she is reading. I listened and watched her read Jesus’ words from The Sermon on the Mount last week and had one of those moments in life when the air is sort of sucked out of your lungs, and you just stand there in awe at the grace of God being lived out in a middle schoolers life.
5. I learned that Thomas gets into drunken fights right before Kindergarten pictures at school. Okay fine just kidding, but his picture could have fooled me. Thanks a lot school photographer. 6. I learned that if there was one concert I could attend over and over again, it would be Rend Collective. They bring joy in the form of music. I knew I loved them before we saw them live on their Art of Celebration Tour, but now my heart is experiencing a forever sealed kind of love for their music. They are the voice of revival in today’s church, and I love their heart.
(photo via Rend Collective Instagram)
7. And lastly, I learned this month the freedom that comes when you surrender to soccer. I stopped fighting it this month, and you will be shocked to hear that having a good attitude about something helps that something not be such a challenge. Kevin and I kiss goodbye Saturday morning, he heads east with one or two kids, and I head west with whoever is left over, and we meet back for dinner that night. It is what it is, and smiling more than complaining helps everyone involved. Who knew?
And those are the highlights.