Tara is the author of Between You and Me, a ridiculously fabulous blog that has a little bit of everything. A little bit of decorating, a little bit of fashion, a little bit of real life, and a whole lot of heart. Tara has become a friend of mine in the world of blogging, and I am so happy she is sharing a little of her heart with us today. I think you will agree it’s a good heart…
After having two boys, I wondered how in the world I’d parent a daughter.
I grew up with boys on both sides of my family, and I was far from a girlie girl.
Wouldn’t you imagine that I would have been absolutely, positively spoiled rotten by my aunts and uncles?
They were all busy raising rough and rowdy boys, and they just threw me right into the mix.
My grandmother often said about me, “she’s as tough as nails!”
It made perfect sense to me that God would give me those two boys.
It’s what I knew.
Truthfully, I never, not once, felt that I was missing out because I didn’t have a daughter.
My husband and I had always wanted to adopt, so when we started the process,
we asked our boys if they wanted a brother or a sister, and they answered without any hesitation,
“We want a sister!”
As soon as they gave us their answer, it was as if our hearts had permission to long for a daughter.
From that moment on, we ached for her, and our family didn’t feel complete until the day the day they placed her in our arms almost two and half years after we started the journey to her.
For about six months after we got home with her, it seemed like we were going to parent her completely different from the boys.
I’m not exactly sure if it was because she came to us differently or because she was a girl,
but nonetheless, we were spoiling her rotten.
Needless to say, it didn’t take long for us to get our acts together, and I know we’re all better for it!
We are called by God to love our children deeply and treasure them as gifts from Him and to train them in the instruction and discipline of his word.
The rest is their story with him.
My prayer for our daughter is that she would love God and love others.
…that she would walk humbly and give God glory for her gifts and talents.
…that she would love mercy and show compassion to those around her.
…that she would trust God for her friendships and be the kind of friend that she wants in others.
…that she would be slow to anger and quick to forgive.
…that she would accept fully that this world does not revolve around her.
…that she would seek God with her whole heart for always.
…that she would have a heart overflowing with gratitude.
…that she would put all of her expectations and hopes and desires in God alone.
..and that she would understand that it is only because of the work on the Cross that Christ did on her behalf that she will be able to accomplish any of these things on any given day.
I’d like to think that I have some sort of control over how she is going to turn out, but I don’t.
The best that I can offer her is to live my life out before Christ and accept the free grace that He offers to me in parenting her and my boys.
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